Would you rather questions for your girlfriend
Good would you rather questions for a girlfriend ask her to choose between two real parts of your life, like a long hug or a long talk on a bad day, or living near her best friend or her family. The 50 below are grouped by topic, and each has a follow-up so her answer becomes a conversation.
have me narrate your day like a nature documentary
have me rate your outfits like a judge on TV
50 dilemmas, each with a follow-up · Updated November 12, 2026
These are written for the two of you, so every pick tells you something you can use: how she wants to be comforted, which weekends she'd relive, who in her life matters most, and what she pictures next. Start with the first ten, then go where the conversation pulls you. Each has a follow-up for when her answer surprises you.
- Let her pick first, then guess why before she tells you.
- Use the follow-up as a real question, then actually listen. Some of these answers are worth remembering.
- Skip anything that doesn't fit your relationship yet. You can come back to it in six months.
50 dilemmas
Start here: ten easy ones
Light, quick and good for warming up. The last few get a little more personal.
Would you rather have me narrate your day like a nature documentary
or have me rate your outfits like a judge on TV
Talk about itWhat would I say about today?
What it revealsWhich kind of teasing she enjoys, and how she likes her day to be noticed.
Would you rather wake up to breakfast in bed every Sunday
or get a new playlist from me every Friday
Talk about itWhat song would have to be on the first one?
What it revealsWhether she feels cared for through comfort or through something made just for her.
Would you rather have us swap phones for an afternoon
or have us swap closets for an afternoon
Talk about itWhat would you look for first?
What it revealsWhat she's more curious about in your life: your messages or your style.
Would you rather always win at board games against me
or always win our arguments about movies
Talk about itWhich loss to me still annoys you?
What it revealsWhich kind of winning she cares about more: games or opinions.
Would you rather have me learn your favorite hobby properly
or learn mine properly yourself
Talk about itWhat would you teach me first?
What it revealsWhether she'd rather share her world with you or step into yours.
Would you rather be the funny one in our relationship
or be the one who laughs hardest at everything I say
Talk about itWhat's the funniest thing I've done without meaning to?
What it revealsWhether she likes making you laugh or being the one who laughs.
Would you rather relive the night we first stayed up talking
or relive the day you realized you liked me
Talk about itWhat were you thinking that night?
What it revealsWhich early memory of the two of you matters more to her.
Would you rather know my exact first impression of you
or have me know yours of me
Talk about itWhat do you think mine was?
What it revealsHow curious she is about how she first came across, and how much she'll share.
Would you rather hear what I tell my friends about you
or hear what I tell my family about you
Talk about itWhat do you hope I said?
What it revealsWhose opinion of her she cares about more: your friends' or your family's.
Would you rather know the moment I fell for you
or keep guessing forever
Talk about itWhen do you think it was?
What it revealsWhether she likes knowing for sure or enjoys keeping a little mystery.
Would you rather: how you like to be loved
The most useful round on the page. Her picks here are a map of what makes her feel cared for.
Would you rather get flowers for no reason once a month
or have a chore you hate done for you once a month
Talk about itWhich chore would you hand me first?
What it revealsWhether romantic gestures or practical help make her feel more looked after.
Would you rather get one big birthday surprise
or get small surprises all through your birthday week
Talk about itWhat's the best birthday you've ever had?
What it revealsWhether she likes one big moment or attention spread out over days.
Would you rather have me remember every small thing you mention
or have me surprise you with things you never mentioned
Talk about itWhat's something small you said once that you'd love me to remember?
What it revealsWhether she feels loved more by being remembered or by being surprised.
Would you rather have me show up at your work with lunch
or have me pick you up after a long night out
Talk about itWhen would that have saved your week?
What it revealsWhen she most needs you to show up: in the middle of her day or late at night.
Would you rather be told you look good every day
or be told you did something well every day
Talk about itWhich compliment of mine has stuck with you longest?
What it revealsWhether she wants to feel admired more for how she looks or for what she does.
Would you rather be comforted with a long hug
or be comforted with a long talk
Talk about itWhat do you usually need from me on a bad day?
What it revealsWhat comfort means to her: being held or being heard.
Would you rather fall asleep on my chest every night
or have your own side and a goodnight kiss
Talk about itHow do you actually like to fall asleep?
What it revealsHow much closeness she wants at night, and how much space she needs to sleep.
Would you rather have me say I love you in front of everyone
or have me say it only when we're alone
Talk about itWhen does it mean the most to you?
What it revealsWhether love feels bigger to her when it's said in public or in private.
Would you rather have me be your biggest fan at everything you do
or have me be your most honest critic
Talk about itWhere do you need which one right now?
What it revealsWhether she needs cheering on or honest feedback from you right now.
Would you rather be forgiven instantly after a fight
or be completely understood after a fight
Talk about itWhat do you wish I did after we argue?
What it revealsAfter conflict, whether she wants to move on fast or feel fully understood first.
Would you rather: weekends, trips and little plans
Easy to answer, easy to act on. If you both pick the same side, put it on the calendar.
Would you rather spend Saturday at a farmers market and cooking
or spend Saturday in bed with takeout and a show
Talk about itWhat would we cook or watch?
What it revealsWhether her ideal weekend is active and out of the house or slow and cozy.
Would you rather take a road trip where you control the music
or take one where you control every snack and stop
Talk about itWhat's on the playlist?
What it revealsWhat she likes to control on a trip, and what she's happy to hand over.
Would you rather learn to dance together
or learn to cook one cuisine together
Talk about itWhich style or cuisine would you pick?
What it revealsWhich shared skill sounds more fun to her: moving together or cooking together.
Would you rather go camping in a tent by a lake
or stay in a tiny hotel room with a huge bathtub
Talk about itWhat's your idea of roughing it?
What it revealsHow she feels about roughing it compared with a little luxury.
Would you rather always have brunch plans on Sunday
or keep every Sunday totally empty
Talk about itWhat would our perfect Sunday be?
What it revealsWhether she likes plans to look forward to or freedom from any plans at all.
Would you rather go see my favorite band live
or take me to see yours
Talk about itWho would you take me to see?
What it revealsWhether she wants to share her taste with you or explore yours.
Would you rather visit the town where I grew up
or show me the town where you grew up
Talk about itWhere would you take me first?
What it revealsWhether she's more curious about your past or keener to show you hers.
Would you rather have a whole weekend with zero phones
or have a weekend where we film everything
Talk about itWhat would you want to remember from it?
What it revealsWhether she'd rather be fully present or keep the memories to look back on.
Would you rather plan our next trip down to the hour
or book the flights and work out the rest there
Talk about itWhat's the trip you keep thinking about?
What it revealsHow she likes to travel: planned in detail or figured out as you go.
Would you rather redo our best weekend together
or have a brand-new one planned by me
Talk about itWhich weekend of ours would you relive?
What it revealsWhether she treasures what you've already had or wants something new from you.
Would you rather: your people and your world
Her friends, her family, her work. These show where you fit in her life and where she wants you to.
Would you rather have me get close with your best friend
or have me get close with whoever raised you
Talk about itWho do you most want me to really get?
What it revealsWho in her life she most wants you to know well.
Would you rather have me ask about your work every night
or have home be a total break from work
Talk about itWhat part of your day do you wish I asked about?
What it revealsWhether she wants to share her work life with you or switch off from it at home.
Would you rather have me be the life of the party at your friend's wedding
or have me be the quiet plus-one who charms people one by one
Talk about itWhich friend would I win over first?
What it revealsHow she likes you to be around her friends: big and fun or warm one-on-one.
Would you rather have your family show me your embarrassing photos
or have mine show you my embarrassing photos
Talk about itWhich photo are you dreading?
What it revealsWho she trusts more with her embarrassing past: her family or yours.
Would you rather spend more time with my friends
or spend more time with yours
Talk about itWhich friend of mine would you hang out with alone?
What it revealsWhose friends she wants your shared social life to lean toward.
Would you rather live a ten-minute walk from your best friend
or live a ten-minute walk from your family
Talk about itWho would be at our door most?
What it revealsWho she leans on most day to day: her best friend or her family.
Would you rather have me join your group chat with your friends
or have me never read a single message in it
Talk about itWhat would surprise me most in there?
What it revealsHow much of her friendships she wants you inside, and how much stays just hers.
Would you rather have me take your side in every argument with friends
or have me tell you honestly when you're wrong
Talk about itWhen have you wanted one but got the other?
What it revealsWhether she needs loyalty or honesty from you when her friends are involved.
Would you rather have me know your whole childhood story
or have me meet the people who were there for it
Talk about itWho from back then should I meet?
What it revealsWhether she wants you to know her past through her stories or through her people.
Would you rather chase a dream job far from here
or keep a good job close to everyone you love
Talk about itWhat's a dream you've put on hold, and why?
What it revealsHow she weighs ambition against staying near the people she loves.
Would you rather: the life we're building
Bigger picks about home, traditions and the long run. Best for a slow evening.
Would you rather design our kitchen
or design our bedroom
Talk about itWhat's the first thing you'd put in it?
What it revealsWhich part of a shared home she cares about most: gathering people or resting.
Would you rather get a dog first
or get a cat first
Talk about itWhat would we name it?
What it revealsWhat kind of daily home life she pictures, and how much routine she wants.
Would you rather have a big group of couple friends
or have a few close friends each
Talk about itWhich couple do you picture us spending time with?
What it revealsWhether she sees your social life as a crowd or a small, close circle.
Would you rather make our anniversary a new trip every year
or go to the same restaurant every year
Talk about itWhat would make it feel like our tradition?
What it revealsWhether she values new experiences or a steady tradition for your milestones.
Would you rather find a place together that's new to both of us
or move into the place one of us already loves
Talk about itWhat would you need to make it feel like yours too?
What it revealsWhether a shared home should feel new to both of you or keep what one of you loves.
Would you rather spend a year living abroad together
or spend a year building our dream home here
Talk about itWhere abroad?
What it revealsWhether she's drawn more to adventure abroad or to putting down roots here.
Would you rather talk about our future every week
or only talk about it when something big comes up
Talk about itWhat part of our future do you think about most?
What it revealsHow often she wants to talk about the big picture, and what's on her mind.
Would you rather have a calm life with lots of time together
or have a busy, exciting life with less of it
Talk about itWhat would we fill the time with?
What it revealsHow she trades time together against excitement and momentum.
Would you rather make small promises to each other every year
or make one big promise and keep it forever
Talk about itWhat would you want me to promise?
What it revealsWhether she sees commitment as something you renew or something you give once.
Would you rather grow old the way your grandparents did
or grow old completely our own way
Talk about itWhich couple do you look at and think that's us one day?
What it revealsWhich couples she looks up to, and how much she wants to do it differently.
Questions people ask
What are good would you rather questions to ask your girlfriend?
The best ones teach you something about her you can act on: how she wants to be comforted, which weekends she'd relive, who she wants you close to. Start with a few light ones, move to how she likes to be loved, and finish with the future round. Ask the follow-up every time her answer surprises you.
What are 21 questions to ask your girlfriend?
21 Questions is a game where you take turns asking each other questions until you've asked 21. You can play it with would you rather: pick 21 dilemmas from this page, take turns reading them, and both answer every one. The first ten on this page plus the eleven in the love and future rounds make a full game.
Are would you rather questions good for a new relationship?
Yes, as long as you pick the right ones. Early on, stick to the start-here and weekends rounds, which are fun and low pressure. Save the future round until you've talked about where things are going. If a dilemma doesn't fit your stage yet, skip it; nobody has to answer a question about moving in on the third date.